You’re very upset with a man about something he didn’t do. Now we’re going to address how to approach the “problem” that you want to discuss with him. Many women find it helpful to practice saying each feeling out loud a few times (in the mirror) so that it feels more “natural” actually speaking your feeling words. Practice Saying the Words that Describe Your FeelingsĪfter you’ve processed your feelings, make a list of words that describe each feeling. Write down all of the feelings that you’ve experienced around him or with him. Now write your feeling words down into a list. You want to go through the process of going deeper to find the mixture of feelings you’re experiencing at that moment. It’s important to NOT be in a rush, because you want to search your feelings. Examine every feeling and go a little deeper each time. The best way to do this is to slow down and experience each moment at a time, meaning that you focus and observe your environment, your body, your breathing and feel exactly what you’re feeling. you start where you’re feeling stuff.įeel everything going on inside of you, find a feeling that feels good to say (this may take some practice), and then feel the feeling that’s dominating at the moment. You start somewhere deep in your chest, or in your stomach. This is where creativity and being poetic play a big role. You want to be authentic, and you also want to find the words that “work” for you. So it’s very important to process your feelings when you’re writing a script. It’s important to remember that your feelings CHANGE from moment to moment, so you need to delve into the possible range of feelings you may have in the situation you’re scripting for. Each sentence explains the feelings you have about a particular situation you want to express. Scripting is writing out your feelings into short 1-2 sentence messages. Scripting is a coaching tool I use from the Rori Raye Method. Writing down your feelings in this way is called Scripting. So before you talk with him, you prepare what you’re going to say to him about a problem based on your feelings. What makes this way of speaking powerful is the ability to express what doesn’t feel good while still keeping the connection between you and a man undisturbed (i.e., not pushing him away). Speaking your power is using your feelings and putting them into words that let a man know what does and what doesn’t feel good to you. Speaking your power is speaking your feelings. Instead of drawing him closer, my words always seemed to push him further away.Ī wonderful thing happened, though. And it felt horrible never having the right words to say to a man. Have you ever wished you could take back your words after you’ve said them to him?ĭo you ever feel like you’d have a better outcome if you knew the right thing to say?

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